Friday, September 27, 2013

I'm going on an adventure! (Part 1)

Have you ever ridden on one of those really tall roller coasters? You wait in line for what seems like an eternity. It winds back and forth through metal gates and every three minutes or so, you take a few steps forward.  When you finally arrive at the front of the line, you are hoping desperately that the ride will be worth the time spent waiting. You get on and strap yourself in. The attendant comes around and checks to make sure you aren't about to fly off. You hear the buzzer sound the all clear and with a jolt you are propelled forward. Then begins the eternal climb accompanied by the rhythmic click, click, click of wheels on track. Your feet dangle carelessly as you rise further and further. Your heart begins to quicken and a slight pit forms in your stomach.

“I’m really high up now,” you think.

You keep climbing. Pretty soon you are over the treetops and have a clear view of the parking lot. The vehicles all look like matchbox cars arranged very carefully in straight rows. You return your attention to the track. All you can see is track disappearing off into the sky. You are nearing the vanishing point. And finally you arrive at the top.

There is a pause. It seems to last a minute or two and then . . . WOOOSH!

Sky. Ground. G force. Trees. Crowd. Ground. Sky. Track. G force. Trees. Crowd. Slowing. Station.

You brush back your windblown hair and breathlessly unbuckle yourself. On wobbly legs you walk toward the exit and disappear into the crowds of the amusement park.

That’s sort of what it has been like in my first few days at Durham. I am still very much on the roller coaster ride. I don’t expect it to stop until well into first term. I have been racing around trying to complete all of the essentials while simultaneously trying to get my bearings. I have been lost, have walked miles in a day, been frustrated, and been very happy, all on top of being completely jet lagged.
I suppose I should start at the beginning.

Tuesday morning I woke up not really sure I was ready to do this. I had no choice, but it felt as though the weight of mountains was crushing me. A thousand doubts plagued my mind. What if my bags are too heavy? What if I lose my passport? What if the flight is delayed and I miss my connection? What if I can’t find the Durham University Welcome Committee at Newcastle Airport? It went on and on like that.

I took a shower and came down to breakfast. My parents were up already as were my ferrets. I played with them as much as I could before they tired and went off to curl up for their naps. After breakfast, I sat in the living room watching TV as though I had nothing important to do that day. It was surreal. The trouble was there was nothing to be done. My packing was done, I brought the cases down, and all I had to occupy myself were my buzzing doubts.

Finally it was time to go. I hugged each of my ferrets and said goodbye. My parents and I loaded up the van and we set off for the airport.

We arrived at the airport and found short term parking near my check in point. All of my packing had amounted to three checked bags and two carry-ons and I was feeling grateful for the extra hands. I checked my bags and the check in representative praised my excellent packing. None were over the weight limit! It was time to head toward the security checkpoint. That’s when I finally had to say good bye to my parents. We hugged and I quickly went through to the checkpoint before I could change my mind. With one glance back I was on my way.

I went through security with no trouble and proceeded to my gate. When I arrived I went to make sure I had my boarding pass and passport handy for when it was time to board.

HORROR!

“Where is my boarding pass?” I looked frantically in all my things and could not find it anywhere. All my doubts came flooding back. I retraced my steps and went back to the end of the security checkpoint. I asked one of the TSA officers what I should do. She smiled and told me it was no problem, that they could print me out another at the gate.

I went back to find the desk empty. It was too early for anyone to be there. My flight didn't leave for another two and a half hours. I sat and waited keeping my eyes fixed on the desk. Just then a gentleman walked up to the desk. He was clearly a passenger with a wheeled carry-on bag dragging behind him. He looked around to see if there was a way to call anyone over and then, finding nothing, placed a long thin white paper on the desk and walked back to his own gate. I ran over and there was my boarding pass! (Thank you whoever you were for turning it in.) I returned to my seat and waited.

When I finally boarded the plane I was feeling just as nervous. I needed to make my connection! We seemed to be taking forever to board and my rows were the last to be called. When I made my way to my seat, there was someone sitting in it. (Oh gosh! Had I gotten the wrong seat?) A flight attendant arrived on the scene. It turns out the woman who had taken my seat had gotten the row wrong. She was supposed to be in the row in front of me. I decided it was no problem, that I’d just take her seat. It even turned out we had both ordered the same special vegetarian meal, so that all worked out very well.

The flight was long, over seven hours, and I didn't manage to sleep at all. I watched two episodes of Doctor Who and Star Trek Into Darkness. I tried desperately to snooze but to no avail. It was pitch black outside the plane window. I could make out some stars but other than that, there was nothing to see.
When we arrived in London, it was completely obscured by fog. Of course we have all heard of the London fog. I’m here to tell you, it is not an exaggeration. There was nothing that could be seen of the ground until I was standing on it.

I had a very tight connection. Only an hour to make it to my Newcastle flight. I began to feel my heart pounding in my chest with sheer anxiety. As I cleared the gate, I noticed a Heathrow worker standing with an iPad that had my connecting flight’s number on it. I approached him and he told me he would take me through to the next gate I needed to be at. We waited for another passenger from my flight who was taking the same connection and we made our way to the border crossing. I was stuck behind a few other people and it was taking ages. Now anyone who knows me will tell you, I am not the type of person to make waves or seek favors. I will wait in a queue and take punishment before I try to play the system. In this case my survival instincts took over. I asked the person directing us to the agent if I could be allowed ahead as I had a tight connection. It worked! I apologized to those who I had jumped and thanked them.

Finally it was my turn. I had my landing card and my passport all ready. She looked at them and then asked for my CAS letter. (Certificate of Acceptance) I froze. I knew it was somewhere in my big red binder I had made of all my important documents. I took it out of my laptop bag and began frantically looking. I looked for a good three minutes and my panic rose with each passing second. Finally, she put me out of my misery and said anything with my university would do. I handed her the offer of accommodation email and then came the question.

“What were you doing the past year?”

I thought for a moment. Well that’s nice of her to make small talk. Oh no wait, she’s not making small talk! What was I doing? I was unemployed. Well I can’t say that. I hung out with friends, sang in a choir, played with ferrets. No, that won’t do. Oh wait, I know!

“I was an intern at the state museum where I lived,” I said still with panic in my voice.

She stamped my visa and I was clear. But I wasn't clear.

I had to go through security again! I had done so at the other airport and didn't think I’d have to do it again but I was very much mistaken. I panicked again. The line was so long! Then I saw one of the security people and decided that it had worked before maybe it will again. I asked to jump the queue.

She was fantastic. She took my bags. Put them on the conveyor belt. I took my laptop out quickly and kicked off my boots and placed them in the bin. Then I went through the detector. My things took what seemed like ten minutes, but they finally came through all right. The woman from security pointed me to my gate and I bolted after an effusive thank you.

I ran to the gate and got in the queue. I had made it! I was exhausted, bedraggled, and quite discombobulated. When I finally stepped onto the plane, I was still out of breath. The flight attendant smiled and looked at me. He was an older gentleman with black rimmed glasses. He looked at my boarding pass.

“Been flying all night have you?” he asked.

I sighed heavily, “Oh yes, I’ve been going for ages.”

“Oh, well you don’t look it. I can tell from your accent though.”

I stopped and looked confused. LIGHT SWITCH. I’m the one with the accent now! It was the first in a series of tables turning. I smiled at him and went to my seat.

The flight was only an hour. It was over before it had really started. We came in for our landing and all I remember seeing were green fields filled with sheep and cattle. It was bizarre, like I had landed in the middle of nowhere. I waited patiently for most of the people to disembark before moving. I had no reason to rush now. I’d have to use the loo and then wait ages at baggage claim. My cases were never one of the first to go. It was the first time I ever disembarked on the tarmac. I went down the stairs imagining I was stepping off of Air Force One or something.

I made my way slowly to baggage claim. Got a trolley to put my five bags on and stood with everyone else waiting for the bags to start coming. You cannot know my amazement and joy when two of my bags were the very first ones down the conveyor belt. I snatched them up and put them on the trolley. Then the third came very soon after.

Then came the hunt for the University Welcome Team. I had been told to look for people in purple shirts but there were none to be found.


To be continued…

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Saying Goodbye, Going Away

I have had a song stuck on repeat in my head for the last two weeks. It’s from the Muppets Take Manhattan when the characters have decided to go their separate ways. They sing about why saying goodbye is so difficult over a montage of farewell scenes. I suppose it is fairly obvious why this song has been on my mind. I’m approaching my departure date and have spent much of my time this week in my own series of farewell scenes among my friends.

I have been struggling to maintain my excitement about my upcoming adventure amid these scenes. It’s not that I don’t want to go or that I resent leaving, but saying goodbye to friends and family is incredibly difficult. I would not describe myself as a social butterfly or even as a consistent goer-outer, but the knowledge that it will be at the very least a few months and at the most a year before I can see people face to face is a bit heartbreaking.

The one saving grace is the advancements in technology. I was speaking only last night to a friend who also spent time abroad in England for her undergrad and graduate work. At the time, Facebook was still something new and existed only on college campuses and there was no Skype. I’m lucky in that I will still be able to interact with everyone at least electronically. I’ll be able to chat, Face Time (once I have a smart phone that is), Skype, like statuses on Facebook, and IM. It has been very comforting knowing I’ll be able to communicate instantly and even see people as I do it. (Might even be fun to pretend I’m on the bridge of the Starship Enterprise while I do it!)

(Incoming Skype call)

“On screen. This is Captain Jen T. Kirk of the Starship Enterprise.”

“Jen this is your friend. For the last time, you don’t have a starship. You’re sitting in your dorm room.”

“Q! Have you transported me into one of your fantasies again? And really, this was the best you could do: campus digs in the Northeast of England? Return me to my ship immediately!”

Sorry I digress. Now, where was I? Ah, right.

Despite all of this, I am still having some lingering sadness. There is no substitute for seeing the people I love in person. I have a friend who recently bought a house and it has been exciting to see how she has made it her own. I’m sad that I won’t be there to see how she continues to transform it into a beautiful, comfortable home. I have other friends who are expecting and will deliver while I’m away. I wish I could be there to meet their new addition. Another friend of mine is an aspiring opera singer. It would be so nice to see her performances this next year and cheer her on as her career develops. I have another friend who is in a performance the weekend after I leave and I so wish I could hear her hit her high B flat. I’m sad I won’t see my nieces learn new things in second grade and my nephew begin to look for colleges. I am worried about leaving my animals, even though I know they will be well looked after. Chase is reaching the age where he may start to develop medical problems and I want to be here if he does. And how will I see Enzo's and Lamborghini's latest shenanigans if I'm halfway across the world?

There are adventures waiting for me in England and I know that even if I can’t physically be here for my friends and family, I can be here virtually. A year will fly by and before I know it I’ll be writing similar words about leaving the fabulous friends I am about to meet in the UK. I think what all of these partings have shown me is that I am loved and I have a network of wonderful, supportive people. It really isn't so much goodbye as it is, signing off here and signing back on there. There is a lot I’m going to miss. I feel a bit foolish for being upset but I guess that just means I have a good life here. And if I have a good life here, I am sure to have a good life there because the only difference between here and there is “tea.”


And on that pun, I leave you. Thank you to all of the wonderful friends and my family for being the awesome people you are. Love you all. 


Saturday, September 14, 2013

Leave the Gun, Take the Cannoli

For the past two weeks I’ve been wishing I had Merlin’s magical packing up spell. If you don’t know what I’m talking about then you need to watch this video:


The question that has been boggling my mind is how does one pack for a year abroad? It’s not like packing for a two week holiday and it’s not like packing for a permanent move. It’s somewhere in between. You need winter and summer clothes, exercise and formal wear, pajamas and dress slacks. You need walking shoes, dress shoes, rain boots, work shoes, comfortable shoes, and uncomfortable shoes. You need important documents, a camera, a computer, power cords, books, mementos, an mp3 player, addresses, jewelry, and power converters (and let’s face it, who has the time to pop down to Toshi Station these days?).

The hardest decision is determining what goes and what stays. What do I absolutely need and what can I pick up when I get there? Throughout the packing process I have had to remind myself that I’ll be able to buy things when I get there. I'm not going into the wilds of the Amazon. England has clothing stores, home goods stores, and office supply stores just like here. It’s been a difficult culling process but there is only so much room and some things will have to stay.

You also have to think about blending in with the local scene. As Durham is a medieval town, I figured maybe a brilliant white chemise and floral green brocade bodice were the way to go. The leather mug completes the look.


It's what all the fashionable peasants were wearing in 1533.


A quick Google image later and this was in the obviously-not-coming pile. All kidding aside, Durham is in fact quite modern and blending in is not going to be a problem.

It was finally time to buckle down and actually begin to pack. As any organized museum professional would, I set about this task logically, efficiently, and with only a touch of obsession. Step 1: Determine the number of bags I can check and any weight restrictions. Step 2: Check the local weather throughout the year to determine what type of clothing would be most suitable. Step 3: Contact the Doctor in order to discover the equations which will allow a larger relative dimension to fit within the smaller dimensions of my bags.

Step 1 was child’s play. All airlines put this information on their websites along with any items that are restricted. The good news is that on international flights, you are sometimes allowed an extra checked bag. I would be allowed two checked bags, a carry on, and a laptop bag for free. The weight of the checked bags had to be kept to under 51 pounds lest I incur further charges or the wrath everyone in line behind me at the airport while I try to repack things. Granted there is no way I can fit everything into two bags and a carry on so I will have to pay a fee for an extra bag, but I’m quickly learning that such is the way of things. 

Step 2 was also fairly easy. A Google search produced a monthly temperature chart with averages and record highs and lows. Durham is pretty far north and tends not to get above the high sixties. That quickly eliminated the need for summer attire. It also doesn't tend to go below the thirties so the Eskimo shoes were out as well. Of course it’s England so rain gear would be essential.

Step3 was a little bit more difficult. I tried several methods of getting in touch with the Doctor but none really panned out. So I went to Bed, Bath, and Beyond and bought some Ziploc Space Bags instead. True it’s not Time Lord technology but you have to go with what is available. I made sure to go with the travel bags which don’t require a vacuum cleaner just in case customs needs to open the luggage and look through things.  I have to say, they worked remarkably well. Check this before and after out:



The thing to keep in mind is that the amount of stuff in the suitcase is not the issue. It’s the weight. That being said I would like to tell you precisely what I was able to fit in my large suitcase using these crazy things.

Ahem.

Introducing, in the blue corner, weighing in at 48 pounds, a suitcase containing:

9 t-shirts
13 blouses
3 pajama bottoms
5 dress trousers
2 sweater dresses
13 sweaters
2 thermal tops
4 leggings
4 sweater skirts
2 formal cocktail dresses
1 wall calendar set
1 set of dividers
1 set of folders
1 set of coasters
1 power converter
3 month supply of contact lenses
2 books
Miscellaneous personal items (make up, soap, etc.)

Of course it’s always important to have a helping hand, or paw, when doing any sort of packing. Chase was invaluable.




Well, one bag down, four more to go. I guess I better get to it!




Saturday, September 7, 2013

Jen's Top Ten Destinations to Visit While in the UK

Hi there, and welcome to the first entry in a series I have decided to call, “Jen’s Top Ten Destinations to Visit While in the UK.” The plan is to lay out ten places I really want to see while I’m living in the England. Then when I actually visit them, I’ll write an installment about that experience. (Still with me?) It’s a bit hokey, but hey, hoke is part of my charm.

So as, this is the first installment,  I better lay out the 10 destinations I’d like to see. These are not in any particular order and I fully reserve the right to change this list in the future.



1. Salisbury Plains and Stonehenge
Stonehenge is one of the biggest henges in the world, at least according to Eddie Izzard. This one is on almost everyone’s list of things to see while in England and for good reason. It’s flipping amazing! To think that ancient people somehow managed to quarry these stones and transport them hundreds of miles to where they are today is just awe inspiring. I’ve been told by friends who have seen it, that pictures can only do so much; that to truly appreciate it, you have to see it in person. I’ll have to let you know if this is true, but I suspect it is. 

Photo by Rhubarble
                                                                              
2. Highclere Castle
If you’re a fan of Downton Abbey than you’ll understand this one. Highclere Castle is where the hit historical drama is filmed. A friend bought me Lady Almina and the Real Downton Abbey for Christmas last year and I enjoyed reading about the real people who lived at Highclere around the time Downton Abbey takes place.  In fact the 5th Earl of Carnarvon was one of the people who discovered the tomb of King Tutankhmun in 1922. There is even an Egyptian exhibit below stairs. What would Carson say?!
 
Photo by neilalderney123

3.  London
There are too many places in London I want to see that I've decided to just say "London" and hope that will encompass it all. As a museum person I have to see the British Museum and the Victoria and Albert Museum. I’m also a huge fan of Sherlock Holmes. My dad instilled in me a love for the character when I was little and I must visit 221B Baker Street and the Sherlock Holmes Museum. Of course there is Buckingham Palace, the Tower of London, the Eye, St. Paul’s Cathedral, Trafalgar Square, Parliament and Big Ben, Tower Bridge, and everywhere else. I think I might need at least a week in London or maybe a lifetime.

Photo by NordicLondon

4.  Cornwall (Lost Gardens of Heligan and St. Agnes)
There are two places in Cornwall I’m looking forward to visiting. I took an historic gardens class a year ago in which we discussed the Lost Gardens of Heligan. Heligan was once an estate with extensive gardens. It suffered a decline after World War I and eventually the gardens were left completely derelict. They have since been restored and I would really love to see them in person. The second destination is St. Agnes. I’ve done some research into my family and the English side was originally from St. Agnes in Cornwall. I see this as a bit of a pilgrimage to the home of my ancestors.

Photo by icing-on-the-cake                        Photo by James Stringer

5. The Doctor Who Experience
In case you hadn’t noticed, I’m a bit of a Doctor Who fan. I’ve watched the show ever since I was seven years old. I grew up watching Tom Baker, Peter Davison, Colin Baker, and Sylvester McCoy battle the Daleks and Cybermen. At the time, the other kids at school had no idea what I was talking about. I’m glad that the show is back and that it has such a huge following. The Doctor Who Experience is part museum part…well, experience, in Cardiff. I’m most interested in anything to do with the classic series, especially Tom Baker’s years.

Photo by nac!

6. Newcastle Upon Tyne
Newcastle is the closest destination to Durham on this list and I’m sure I’ll visit it frequently. It’s situated on the banks of the River Tyne and like any city its size, it has museums, shopping, theaters, and restaurants. I am really looking forward to walking across the Gateshead Millennium Bridge.

Photo by freefotouk

7. Hadrian’s Wall
Built by the Romans as a defensive fortification, Hadrian’s Wall stretched from Segedunum at Wallsend (walls end, get it?) to Solway Firth. While it isn’t the Great Wall of China, it is still pretty impressive in scope. Of course I’m not planning on visiting the entire wall, but I would like to walk a portion of it. As it runs near to Newcastle I figure I’ll try to see that section.

Photo by kewing
                                                  
8. Beachy Head and the Seven Sisters, East Sussex
It’s true the White Cliffs of Dover are more famous, but after looking at pictures and reading a bit, I think I’d like to visit Beachy Head and the Seven Sisters. No, I’m not planning on having tea with seven siblings who live on the cliffs, though that would be lovely. The Seven Sisters is the name given to a series of cliffs along Beachy Head. There is also the added bonus of a Sherlock Holmes hiking trail!

Photo by GrahamAndDairne

9. The Roman Baths at . . . well, Bath
Along with Hadrian’s Wall, the Romans also left behind some magnificent baths conveniently in the city of Bath. Okay, so it’s just possible that the city was named after the baths, regardless it’s something I’d really love to see. In addition to the ruins, there is a museum and living historians. I also wouldn't mind a session at the Thermae Spa . . . you know, just to have the whole authentic experience.

Photo by .myke

10. Oxford
I wish I could say I wanted to visit Oxford because of its historic importance or because it is home to the oldest university in England. The truth is I want to visit Oxford because I want to see where Inspector Morse and Inspector Lewis were filmed. (I can feel your eyes rolling.) I do want to see the beautiful buildings, especially the Bodleian Library, and I am a great admirer of J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis. So perhaps there are a few reasons I want to visit Oxford, some are good and some are silly.

Photo by ajagendorf25

It may seem like an odd list and it will certainly bring me from one corner of the UK to the other, but maybe that's the point.

Stay tuned for the next installment in this series when I hope to bring you some stories of my experiences at one of 
Jen's Top Ten Destinations to Visit While in the UK..K...K...K

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Are you sitting comfortably? Then I'll begin.

Welcome and congratulations on finding my blog! You’re probably wondering why I've gathered you all here.

Well, for starters let me introduce myself. I’m Jen, a postgraduate international student at Durham University or at least I will be from the end of September. Now I would never say that choosing to go to graduate school in a foreign country is ever a whim, but my decision to go to graduate school in a foreign country was kind of a whim. After four years of teaching music in public schools I finally decided it wasn't really the career for me. I loved working with my students, especially my chorus kids, but there were a lot of other things that went along with the job that really took away from the fun aspects. I also found it incredibly difficult to get back into the swing of things after having two months off during the summer. (Yes, I know not many people would complain about having summers off, but this is the internet and you’ll find people who complain about bright sunny days and puppies, often in the same sentence.) It was time for a new career, one in which I could feel happy, fulfilled, and have some continuity. So did I decide to get my MBA or go into economics? Perhaps law school or medical school? No, no. Don't be silly! Why would I choose a lucrative career path? I decided to go into museum science.

“Museum science?” you say, “But couldn't you stay in the US to do that? I mean, we have museums and all here. I know. I’ve seen them and I’ve even been in them!”

Well you’re right. The US has tons of museums, over 15,000! And there are roughly 150 graduate level programs in the US in museum studies. So, why England? My answer: why not!? I’ve always been a bit of an anglophile. I began watching Doctor Who before the age of seven. (Tom Baker will always and forever be my Doctor.) British television shows were a constant fixture in my house growing up and to this day I'm still better at recognizing British actors than American actors. Okay, no, that doesn't make me an expert on British life and culture, but it certainly planted the seed of wanting to visit England someday. Later on I met some wonderful British friends and we would frequently discuss the similarities and differences between life in the US and the UK. I enjoyed listening to their stories and one day I asked one of them if she thought I would enjoy living over there.

“Oh, yes. I think you’d really love it,” she said.

Then there is the wanderlust. Now I will freely admit it hasn't taken me very far . . . yet. I’ve mostly traveled around the US with one two week jaunt down to Brazil. Though I haven’t had a chance to travel the world as extensively as I would like, I do have an explorer’s spirit. I find I am often happiest when I am exploring a new place, trying a new activity, or meeting new people. Travelling tends to bring out the hidden extrovert in me. I am more open and adventurous when I am somewhere new.  

To make a long story short (too late) I chose to look for graduate programs in England because I wanted to experience a different country; one for which I already had an affinity and one which I thought would be a good fit. Also the timing was just right. I had just lost my job and wanted to change careers anyway. I didn't have any ties to sever and I had a strong support system (and still do) in my friends and family. So one night, I took the plunge and began looking for the right program across the pond.

That was a little over a year ago. I was accepted by Durham University in July of 2012. Since then, I’ve been preparing, filling out forms (endless forms), and dreaming about what it will be like once I finally get there. I still have never visited England, let alone the town I’ll be living in, but I’ve been “cyber stalking” the town of Durham on Google maps, looking at Market Square, Durham Cathedral, the Castle, the River Wear, and trying to get my virtual bearings of the town. I’ve begun rooting for Newcastle United in the Premier League and have discovered what is must be like to be a Phillies fan in the process. I’ve been planning out all of the destinations I want to visit on my holidays from school: London, Stonehenge, Highclere Castle, Cornwall, Hadrian’s Wall, the Doctor Who Experience in Cardiff, 221B Baker Street, the list is ever growing. I’m not sure I will see everything and do everything I would like to and at times I have to struggle to remember I’m there to earn an advanced degree and not to be a tourist.

Whatever my year in England will be, I’m sure it will be unforgettable. I hope to share my experiences, discoveries, disappointments (hopefully there won’t be many of those), excitements, and not a few photos with you.


So if you like what you are seeing and what you are reading, please come back and see how I’m getting on! If not . . . well then, I’m really sorry . . . hmmm this is awkward. Here have a picture of a ferret so your five minutes weren't completed wasted.